So... that's all very well. But what now?
Good question, friend.
Our Flyways Method & Planner is designed for exactly this situation. You can do it on any odd piece of paper you have lying around (although you may have received a Planner with your purchase). The Flyways Method is based on three steps:
- A reflection on the person you're writing to
- A heart-check, regarding one's true feelings and observations
- A question: Will this serve them and is the time right?
Let me demonstrate.
Let's say I have a good friend moving to a new city for a job opportunity that's both exciting and intimidating. They've accepted the position but are feeling a mix of anticipation and anxiety about the big change.
Using the Flyways Method and thinking about the card themes of belonging, good fortune, and cheery courage, I could jot down the following notes:
Step 1: Who is this person in this moment?
- A friend in transition, stepping into unfamiliar territory
- Leaving the comfort of familiar surroundings and community
- Building new connections and finding how they fit in a new world
Step 2: What's in my heart for them?
- I appreciate their willingness to take meaningful risks. I could never move interstate.
- They often find their footing in unexpected places and I pray this will be no different.
- I do believe they possess a natural ability to create home wherever they land.
- I have a genuine belief that this move will yield unexpected blessings.
Step 3: Will saying this serve them?
- Helpful? Yes - acknowledging both excitement and uncertainty validates their complex feelings
- Uplifting? Yes - reminding them of their capacity to create belonging would strengthen them for the journey
- Timely? Yes - a card accompanying a small housewarming gift creates space for encouragement without pressure
Final Message
After some reflection (and with a little bit of practice), the above reflections could result in a message like this:
My friend -
There's something wonderfully fitting about this little rabbit making a home in an unexpected teapot. I thought of you immediately. You've always had this remarkable ability to create belonging wherever you land.
I know this move feels equal parts exhilarating and terrifying. Big leaps usually are. But I've watched you navigate enough of life's plot twists to know this: where you plant yourself, good things grow. Not because you're lucky, but because you're attentive to the soil around you.
The world needs more people willing to pour themselves into new places. I know you'll build something really wonderful there.
Rooting for you from here,
Cass
How I Applied the Method
This message is grounded in reality—acknowledging the genuine mix of emotions that come with major life transitions. Rather than offering empty platitudes about "exciting new adventures," it recognizes both the courage required and the person's specific capacity to create home in new contexts.
The card's imagery of a rabbit finding home in an unconventional place (teapot) surrounded by symbols of good fortune (clovers) provided the perfect metaphor for someone stepping into new territory. The message builds authentic connection by seeing both their courage and their vulnerability, offering encouragement that's specific to who they are, not generic positivity.
The earthiness comes through in grounding the encouragement in reality—focusing on their actual capacity to create belonging, rather than promising that everything will magically work out.